3 Replies to “Growing old can prove extra lonely for gay men, lesbians and bisexuals”

  1. I am 40 and coming out of the closet again. I am in a church that beleives that gays can’t love Jesus. About 12 years ago, I was told that if I don;t change I’d have to leave. I choose to “change” meanwhile I am this missrable man. I have tried the dating of women, possible marriage, but could never bring myself to do so.

    It isn’t until now that I have had a rude awakening. I have lived all my life to please others, do what they thought I should do or be. Now at 40 years old, I am coming out, but fearful of loosing my “church family and friends” they are all I have.

    I am not into the gay scene, bars etc. I am afraid that at this late in time, that I may be alone for the rest of my life.

    I have been celibate for 12 years and refuse to just sleep around. I feel that the gay comunity has an oppertunity to show the world that we do have values and character. I some times wonder if that is my only option.

    There ahs to be a way to find that balance in life of being single minded and hearted ubtil Mr. Right comes along. The scary part is, is he out there or do I remaine celibat?

    If anyone has any Ideas or support in this matter please drop a line to flcooper@spocom.com

    Have a wonderful day:)

  2. I am not Gay but will probably be alone for the rest of my life due to a personality disorder and depression.

    What annoys me is that many people think I’m Gay because I’m not married (actually I rarely leave the house).
    I will be far lonelier than any Gay person

    There can be many reasons why people live on thier own, and it’s not always about sexuality.


    (I had to get that off my chest)

  3. “i will abandon laziness, for which life has no time. enter the undistracted path of study, reflection, meditation. now that i have reached this crucial point, i will not fear the peaceful and wrathful ones, my own projections.”

    “i will abandon the corpse like sleep of careless ignorance, and let my thoughts enter their natural state…”

    “i will abandon all grasping, yearning and attachment,enter undistracted into clear awareness of the teaching, and eject my consiciousness, and since no relatives go with me from this world, i wander in the bardo state alone…, may THE PEACEFULL AND WRATHFULL of my strength send out the power of their compassion, and clear away the dense darkness of ignorance. and parted from beloved friends,wandering alone empty forms appear…”

    “may i meet …, knowing how to walk and talk as soon as i am born, may i obtain the power of nonforgetfullness in remembrance of the past… .”

    “i will abandon all grasping, yearning and attachment, enter undistracted into clear awareness of the teaching, where ever i am.., may that land be blessed so that all sentient beings MAY BE HAPPY.”

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